SHARE Atlanta

"Notes and Letters to SHARE Atlanta"

Cliff/NV/11/97 - "...we are not alone in how we feel"

Leanne/NV/2/98 "...I CAN BE THERE AND UNDERSTAND, IT IS SO PAINFUL, I KNOW, I'VE BEEN THERE"

Selena/CA/2/98 - "...opportunity to share with everyone my feelings and love for Kada Joy."

Kate/MI/3/98 - "...sharing experiences with others who know my pain is helpful in the healing process"

Alejandra/MO/1/98 - "...finally talk to someone who may understand"

Penny/OH/4/98 - "...We wanted a baby, but we had an Angel"

Dave & Jackie/CA/4/98 - "...web page will help us know that there are others out there that have felt as we do now!!!"

Jana P./ID/6/98 -...(I have been)facilitating the monthly (SHARE) meetings for more than three years..."

Tim and Elaine/CA/12/98- "...Nathaniel Riley was stillborn...

Kristne/OH/1/23/99-"...costs of funerals, etc. concern this mother...she wants to help...

"To all those who have experienced the same tragedy our prayers and thoughts are with you..." by Cindy, Anchorage, Alaska, 3/15/99

"I am so sorry for everyone's loss and wish happiness and peace in the future." by Nelke, Columbus, OH (5/12/99)

" She will always be my first baby though--I love her dearly and miss her so much." by Meghan, Downey, CA (6/23/99)

"Our baby died two months before her due date"...by Donnett Colfax, Wa (8/99)

"It was the hardest thing we have ever gone through, and even harder to go on. I know my rose waits for me 'on the other side' and I will love her forever." by Melanie, Akron, OH (8/99)

We love you,
Mommy and Daddy

Cliff
Las Vegas, Nv
E-mail
11/10/97

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Eight years later...Reaching out and caring...

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Marcia, Thank you so much for your thoughtful and understanding email. It means alot to me to know that there are so many caring people out there like you.

Visit"Initial Feelings, Reactions, and Loss to read the loving poem that Selena wrote about her baby, Kada Joy. Visit "Friends and Family Share../In Loving Memory Of My Niece Kada Joy Alvarfor the loving poem that Paula wrote to Selena.

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I recently lost my little girl Hailey. She passed away after only 10 days and I miss her terribly.

Visit "The Story of Our Little Angel" to read Kate's experience and thoughts about Hailey Elizabeth. Kate
Hailey Elizabeth Rogula
12-27-97-1-6-98
Other/CDH(congenital diaphramatic hernia
& Fetal Growth Restriction
MI
E-mail
3/20/98

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Attending a meeting a year after a loss - finding out that others understand. I am truly glad to finally talk to someone who may understand.

Dear Alejandra, I am glad you have found us also. I am sorry about the loss of your baby a year ago. We do understand the pain you have been through and that going through it with little support makes it even more difficult. Please visit our site as much as you can and let us hear from you when you can.

The best part is you are in the area that our National SHARE group meets and has its offices. Please visit their site at http://www.nationalshareoffice.com/main.htm, and you can call them directly!! Check at our site under "Come Join Us" for more information about them and us. When you call or email them tell them that Marcia, from SHARE Atlanta, send you! I am sure that they have a group for you to attend.

Dear Marcia: Thank you very much for your concern. I kept on browsing the internet that day and found the telephone numbers of SHARE in Missouri. I called them and was able to attend one meeting this week.

I really appreciated the support and the sharing of others. It was not easy, but it makes it more tolerable knowing that we are not alone in this, and that most of our strange feelings are experienced by others.

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Thank you everyone for sharing your memories of your angels. My son's name is Matthew Alexander.

Penny's story and Initial Feelings, Reactions

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Marcia , Dave and I both want to thank you for putting this poem up for the world to see, and thank you so much for all your kind words.

Visit the loving poem that Samantha's Uncle John wrote in memory of Samantha - Family and Close Friends Share Their Thoughts and Feelings/"A poem for our angel Samantha" by Uncle John and

"Hello, Samantha..." by Jacki and Dave & Shay (4/98)

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Dear Marcia,

I am so thrilled that I have found all of your wonderful support and information on the internet.

For more of Jana's thoughts about Troy ~ "When I Held You" by Jana(6/98)

Marcia's comment: I put your note on "Notes/West" - maybe someone in that area will read it and look you all up! Leading and "growing" a group is hard work, but I have felt it to be one of the special parts of my life through the last 13 years. We started with 4 people getting together and two moved away.

For a while we were definitely small. But, as more folks came to the group, healed, had babies and came back, we grew. We have had trials and lows mixed with many positive times. One healed parent, one living child, means something special has happened. That's what it is all about.

If we can help you in any way, we will. Yes, we are copyright (says so at the end of each page), but we want you to use "our material," just be sure to include dates, names of the folks who wrote the letter or poem, and copyright information(SHARE Atlanta (C) 1997/Marcia McGinnis, webmaster. Now, if their email address is not their, please don't use the material...they have asked not. As to that poem. I have her email and I will email her and ask if she minds. I used a part of her dedication in another part of my site and asked and it was okay... You may surely print our email, website in your newsletter and our topics!! I would be honored if you did!

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Our precious baby boy, Nathaniel Riley was stillborn on Dec. 9, 1998. He was 15weeks gestation; very tiny, but amazingly perfectly formed. Though we never had a chance to know him, we loved him dearly.

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Hi, my name is Kristen Cooper. I am trying to establish a fund, to cover the burial expenses of young children here in my county (Lake - OH). My reason for doing so comes out of a volunteer experience. I was working at our local RTL office and received a call from a grieving Mother, looking for help. There was no real way to give her a referral, in our area. My goal is to have a fund that would be available to help.

I am a mother of twin girls myself and just cannot imagine trying to deal with money issues at a time like that.

I was wondering if expenses are a big issue, or is this just a one off situation? I would really appreciate any insight in this area. Sincerely, Kristen Cooper

Marcia's thoughts: My point of view at this moment based on what I have seen in 15 years....

I think that this is an issue, but we have found, when asked, many funeral homes will consider lowering the price for babies. I think a move to help funeral homes understand the needs of young parents would be very wonderful. We need folks to write letters that explain the need and see how to go about helping funeral personnel "do the right thing" around this issue. Reducing the cost of cremation or burial arrangements would aid many young couples who face this situation.

Raising money is a very special thought...but how much? ...who would be entitled to it? ...where would you get it from and where would you keep it?...how would folks know about it? etc. Some efforts to promote understanding in the funeral arena about the high costs might be more productive in the long run. I know that some homes already address this issue. Frankly, we have never had anyone willing to work in this area...though we have discussed it.

I would find others input on this subject very interesting...

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Thomas Robert was born on the 14 of March in Anchorage Alaska 1999. He was born stillborn at Providence Hospital and we all love and miss this little angel very much.

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HI!

I am 21 years old and recently lost my baby , Jan99-March99. I don't know the sex, but I believe she was a girl. I named her "Farishta", which means Angel in Urdu.

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I don't know exactly when my Angel Baby left me, but she (I strongly feel she was a girl, but I'll never know for certain) is gone. She would have been due on 10/29/99. I had a missed miscarriage and found out she had passes away around 8 weeks when no heartbeat was found at 12 weeks. I under-went a D&C on 4/16/99.

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Donnett
Colfax, Wa
8/99

Our baby died two months before her due date. We prayed before she died what we should name her and God said Faith.

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My husband and I lost our first child on May 2, 1998. It was the hardest thing we have ever gone through, and even harder to go on. I know my rose waits for me "on the other side" and I will love her forever. Thanks to God, an angel was sent here to be with us on June 19, 1999.

We truly know what a miracle this blessing is, and God Bless everyone who has lost a child before they knew them. Whether "CJ" will be here for a short while or a long time, I will treasure every moment, and never forget the gift I was given that warm summer day. Melanie
Akron, OH
8/99
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