I belonged to SHARE about two years ago, after having two miscarriages in a row. I just recently had my third miscarriage and would like to start receiving your newsletter again. I would also like to send a donation to Share.

I had operated a chapter of SHARE up until 3 years ago. Now I do one on one. I would love to chat. And I will give support as needed.

I work in nursing......I raise and breed shetland sheepdogs. I have three surviving children...ages are 6, 10, and 17. All boys...Yes my toilet seat is always up! Or not raised at all... That is a different chapter!

To all of you parents who have gone through your loss, I truly understand! Courage got me through the pain............. I am glad I found you! Annie

Note #2 Hi Marcia, Feel free to use this line from the dedication " The short time with you will be the treasures within our hearts". My husband really likes that line too, he thought it was a perfect way of saying exactly how we feel about the short time we had. Thanks for taking interest in it, and I feel just a tad honored. Take Care, Teri

The site has helped me tremendously, in addition to two support groups that my husband & I are attending in our local area. I check the site often for new submissions from others. The site has helped me cope; I hope my writing helps anyone else who has suffered a loss. I've told some of my support group friends about your web site as well; it's certainly the best site I've found on the internet. I plan to write again as time goes on; thanks for allowing me to share. JoAnn W.

Entry # 2 3/17/98 - Marcia, Thank you again for including my thoughts on your site; I do hope it helps others. I appreciate your response notes back, too. You've been a big support to me; at least I know I'm not totally nuts! I know co-workers think my behavior and moods are quite bizzarre; if they only knew it all. It really helps to share with people who know the rollercoaster feelings. Thanks again, you're a great support to alot of people for keeping the site alive!

Although I have not added our children's entries yet, I will soon. I want to make sure that our entries due justice to their memories. I thank you for making this website available, I will visit again soon.

(Marcia's comment: Dear Suzanne, Thank you for sharing your thoughts around the experiences shared within. I am continually moved by the support that others are willing to give to each other via the site.

It is comforting to know that no one has to move through the process of grief by themselves - others have gone before and are still, now, learning to cope and heal. Please be gentle with yourselves, and take the time you need to be, at whatever place you need to be, for "Now.")

Entry #2 3/17/98 - Thank you so much for this page it has helped me to deal with a lot of pent up anger and sorrow, I now can begin the slow healing process, I know now I am not alone in my grief. In memory of my son I wanted to get a charm in the shape of a child, but my dillema is should I get one for the month I lost him or his actual due date - any suggestions would help.

Marcia's reply - Thank YOU for the kind comments. To help others, help themselves is why I started this page. Healing does take time and letting go of pent up anger and sorrow is usually the very first step toward healing. Grief does make us feel so alone. When we begin to realize that our feelings are normal and shared by others, we can begin to use the energy that has gone into "pretending all is fine" into healing.

Marcia's Comments
There are not many details in this letter, but I would consider the possibility of incompetent cervix(though usually they happen a little earlier) or an antibody problem. Both of these "situations" are linked in our Medical Information Page. There may be no answers, but one can always venture forth an idea to a doctor that deals with high risk situations - if you have not done so.

Another reasurrance for Vilma might be to ask for extra care as the last trimester approaches. Certainly, we have had many folks who have had stillbirths and then a healthy baby. I must say, though, they were carefully watched by their doctors.

I am finding many people do not seem to understand the feelings of loss or they want to avoid me. They have no idea that I held my dead baby in my arms after being in labor and giving birth. I don't think my baby will have a birth or dealth certificate, but she is very real to me.

I lost my baby March 16, 1998- my second daughter at 16 weeks. My other daughter is 6 years old and is a joy to me.

My water broke 2 days after having an amnio. I am looking for help on how to deal with the grief and feelings of guilt on having the amnio.

Has anyone out there had a simular experience? My daughter's name is Faye Elizabeth who died and I will always have a special place in my heart for her. I am having a bit of a tough time now and I am looking for ways to cope with the grief, isolation and guilt. Thanks in advance. Lauren